Workshop ideas

Here’s a selection of  workshops and modules which have been popular. Timings vary and depend partly on the number of participants, because check-ins, check-outs and sharing rounds are an important part of any workshop I do.  ‘Levels’ are also somewhat flexible, but as a rough guide:

  • ‘Basic’ assumes no prior knowledge of NVC, NbC or any group work
  • ‘Intermediate’ assumes familiarity with the language of needs and feelings and some ability to self-connect
  • ‘Advanced’ assumes experience both with applied NVC and group work.

One could also say that the ‘levels’ offer an increasing level of challenge, whatever prior experience people have.

Needs hunter – An introduction to NVC/NbC which avoids theoretical descriptions and instead goes directly from everyday experiences to inward awareness.
Level: Basic. Duration: 1 hour > 4hrs

Behind the story – An attempt to untangle the confusion caused by our imprecise use of language to describe our internal states. Feelings and judgements are clearly separated, using real-life examples,  and the close link between feelings and needs is revealed.
Level: Basic > Intermediate. Duration: 1.5hrs > 2hrs

Three-way communication – This is my NbC Foundation training, which includes the two modules above as well as the arts of making clear observations and taking action to meet our needs. It focuses more on Self-connection than many standard NVC Foundations do, but also encompasses how to listen empathically and how to speak from the heart in a way which can be heard.
Level: Basic. Duration: 2 days.

Embodied NVC – Simple exercises and practices from T’ai Chi, Aikido and Contact Improvisation exactly mirror the processes of NVC and offer a word-free environment in which to tune into the essence of listening, expressing and connecting with ourselves and others. Includes physical movement and touch.
Level: Basic-Intermediate. Duration: 1.5hrs++

Life Check – A systematic worksheet-based self-assessment of our life situation – home, family, relationships, work, health – from the point of view of human needs. A good preparation for a longer training or for distance learning/ coaching, can be completed prior to or outside the workshop setting.
Level: Intermediate.  Duration: 1.5 hrs ++ …

Beyond the right words – When people first encounter NVC, it’s often seen as a way of improving communication by choosing carefully what we do and don’t say to each other. The focus on standardised phrasings can result in a stilted style of speech which totally fails to create connection. This workshop provides what students are wanting when they ask to learn ‘street NVC’, but not by simply using more casual language: rather, by placing our primary attention on self-connection, instead of on what we think we want to say. Natural language will follow in the dialogue if we are fully in touch with our own feelings and needs first. A retraining for students who have ‘learnt NVC’ from a book!
Level: Intermediate. Duration: 4hrs – 1 day

Consenting to intimacy – many of us want more intimacy in our lives, but don’t know how to choose intimate connections with safety and care for our own vulnerability and the other person’s. This workshop explores the many beautiful needs associated with intimacy and practises how to balance openness with protection, safety with courage.
Level: Intermediate> Advanced. Duration: 4 hrs > 2 days

Bringing our relationships to life with NbC – It’s in close relationships that our gaps are often exposed. We can ‘do NVC’ with our colleagues and friends maybe, but don’t find it so easy to ‘live NVC’ with our partners and families! The first part of this workshop checks whether we are actually applying the NVC/NbC we already know in the 3 areas of listening, speaking and self-connecting. Next we look at triggers and core beliefs. Finally I suggest practical procedures to handle conflict and make our relationships more wonderful.
Level: Intermediate > Advanced. Duration: 1 > 2 days depending on prior experience.

Inner Child regression – A simple but surprisingly deep method for connecting with inner child issues. Uses semi-trance and groups of 3 (child, supporter and witness) for maximum safety and learning. Also a good preparation for in-depth Core Beliefs work.
Level: Intermediate > Advanced. Duration:  3 hrs – 1 day

Guilt and shame – Can be a preparation for Core Beliefs work or a day workshop in itself. The combination of painful emotions and negative judgements which create the states of guilt, shame and depression can be tricky to unravel. A needs-based perspective brings clarity and healing.
Level: Advanced. Duration: 2hrs > 1 day  (combines with module below).

From shame to joy  – Shame in particular is such a rich vein of healing to tap, connecting with the wounded but ever resourceful inner child, paralysing core beliefs which block our growth and the very roots of violence itself. We explore with care and tenderness the sensitive wounds of shame, and reconnect with our forgotten innocence and power.
Level: Advanced. Duration: 2hrs > 1 day  (combines with module above).

Consenting to intimacy – many of us want more intimacy in our lives, but don’t know how to choose intimate connections with safety and care for either our own vulnerability or another person’s. This workshop explores the many issues around intimacy from a needs-based perspective, with an emphasis on choice and clarity. It’s exciting, fun and a little bit scary, and offers the potential for a significant shift in your experience of intimacy.
Level: Advanced. Duration: 1 day  > 2 days.

Transforming Core Beliefs –  Old limiting beliefs are re-evaluated from a needs-based perspective and new stories are created and installed. Deep personal transformation in a safe, guided process. The most effective way I have yet found to make our lives more wonderful in the space of a couple of hours!
Level: Advanced. Duration: 2.5 hrs > 1 day (min. 1 hr preparation plus up to 1.5 hr per process)

*For open workshops on the calendar, go to the main Workshops page.